Any new parents here?
Last week, I posted about market fatigue, and after having some great discussions here about how to cope with it, I started thinking about what could be causing it. Obviously, stocks going sideways or down plays a part, but I've also got a 10 month old ball of energy running around here every night (his favorite activity is climbing the stairs..), and we've been passing around a cold through our house all summer, so I think a bit of life/work/parent fatigue has bled into my disinterest in the markets lately, although stepping back from watching the daily ups and downs is actually probably a net positive in the long run.

Anyone else chasing a newborn or toddler around the house? Have you noticed the same things I have, that you have less time and/or interest in active investing now that your attention is needed elsewhere? Don't get me wrong, I LOVE being a dad, and spending time with my son after he gets home from daycare is the highlight of my day, I've just noticed that it's (correctly) adjusted my priorities away from my portfolio, and I was wondering if I was the only one haha
Nathan Worden's avatar
I'm not a parent but I can totally see this happening— and having it impact one's preferred investing style.
Capisce Capital's avatar
@nathanworden I definitely have felt like I don't have the time to research like I'd like, and then I get a little paralyzed when deciding what to add to, because I don't feel I've "done the work", but then don't feel I have time to do the work.. it's a bit of a rut to be stuck in, but we're working through it!
Steve Matt's avatar
9-month-old girl here. She’s my first kid that I’m aware of (my wife hates that joke). Not walking yet but she’s scooting around. I absolutely adore sitting her on my lap and speaking what I’m doing as I do some remedial DD or update my portfolio spreadsheet. I’ll also read investing articles to her. She has absolutely no idea what I’m talking about yet but just my voice and the screens keep her interested (I do limit how much I do this as we don’t want her to be a screen kid).
I also love, love, love investing. It’s a hobby as much as a wealth-builder, so I’ve made sure I have my time allocated to allow me that opportunity to really dive in to stuff. I certainly have had other less interesting hobbies fall off the map a bit or entirely so I could see how if investing isn’t a true passion for you, that you’d lose at least a little interest in it.
Nathan Worden's avatar
@interrobangbros that is extremely cute 🥹 Sounds like you are a great Dad 🙂
Capisce Capital's avatar
@interrobangbros I loved reading this! I have an account set up for him, and every once in a while I'll pull it up and joke "let's see how much money you lost today!", he definitely enjoys the colors on the screen. I do love investing, but I've been getting a bit burnt out by the process because it feels futile at times, and I haven't been doing it long enough to zoom out and feel I'll be okay in a few years, I get stuck in short term mindsets.

I think I'm going to start reading some seeking alpha articles to him at bedtime to help him sleep :)
Joey Hirendernath's avatar
Hi Nick

I am not a parent but I can completely understand where you are coming from. I think it helps to be aware and introspect your mindset bearing in mind not just the issue itself but what you are going through personally in life. I find that adds a lot more context for me and gives me a greater insight to my decisions.

Wish you all the best on your journey as a parent and I am sure one day you will be able to share your love for investing with your son too :)
Capisce Capital's avatar
@joeyhirendernath thank you Joey! Your comments are always so kind and insightful, and I am definitely trying to stay actively invested so I can teach him the lessons I didn't get as a kid, and give him a leg up on his journey through life :)
Ben's avatar
I have a 4 year old girl. She is amazing. You have to make time changes to hang out with and teach your kids. I gave up golf and video games. But I still take time for me to read about stocks bc I enjoy it.
Capisce Capital's avatar
@rpinvestments I appreciate the insight! I have definitely made the time changes, and I think my investing research has taken the brunt of it, but I have to work on the balance there - I veg out and game now and then after he goes to bed, perhaps I need to open the ole laptop up and read, game, read, game, etc
Rihard Jarc's avatar
My son is "on his way" in a few months :) Interesting read :D
Steve Matt's avatar
@rihardjarc Congrats and good luck! I kept telling my wife during the two months that that we weren't going to recognize any ROI until around the 3-month mark. The first real smile (not those fake, please-keep-feeding-me smiles) would be the marker. That first smile from him recognizing you will launch you over the moon.

If you need any baby product suggestions or have any questions, DM me. Happy to give my two empirical, anecedotal cents.
Capisce Capital's avatar
@interrobangbros @rihardjarc Rihard, congratulations on the little one on the way! Is this your first? Prepare to expect the unexpected! I echo Steve's comment, if there's any questions/suggestions you need help with, my DMs are always open, my wife has done a crapload of research and reading and I've got a lot of secondhand knowledge haha
Joshua Simka's avatar
@rihardjarc Congrats, @rihardjarc! Wishing you and your family all the best and many blessings.
Rihard Jarc's avatar
@interrobangbros @capisce_capital @tomato Thanks so much all of you! :) Yeah it's the first one, I'm still like a deer standing in the middle of the road with a car at full speed coming at it, have no idea what is coming :D
Joshua Simka's avatar
I am not a parent but what you're describing makes total sense to me! You have a lot of competing interests at the moment. Parenting shifts your whole worldview. Don't forget to look after your own needs too (sleep, self-care, space and time, when you can find it, to process all the emotions that come with). One nice thing about investing is that we can step away and come back and our portfolios and the market will still be there, chugging along.
Capisce Capital's avatar
@tomato It is probably better for me to not be checking daily anyways! I try to be a LT investor and not a trader, but watching the flows always makes me itchy to make moves. My son is thankfully a great sleeper at nighttime, so taking care of myself has gotten easier as he's gotten a little older. I didn't sleep much for the first couple months, that was tough!

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